Do you know that in marriage there are two types of persons involved?; “morning person” and “night person”. Morning person wakes with the enthusiasm of a kangaroo, springing to face the day with excitement, while the night person hides under the covers and thinks. Night persons have their “prime time” from 10pm until… That’s when they enjoy reading, playing games doing things that others might enjoy doing in the day, while the morning person is quickly fading at that hour.
This personality difference may have a profound impact upon the couple’s sexual relationship, the morning person wants to go to bed at 10pm, cuddle and make love, while the night person is saying, “you got to be kidding, I can’t go to bed this early.” The morning person may feel rejected, while the night person feels like they are being controlled. This may well lead to arguments and frustration…


Is there hope for this couple? Certainly, if they choose to respect their differences and negotiate a solution. For example, the night person may agree to have sex at 10pm if the morning person will allow the night person to leave the bedroom after love making and pursue his or her other interests until midnight. However, if the morning person insists that the night person remain in bed after love making, that person may feel manipulated, controlled and frustrated. A morning person will never become a night person neither will a night person become a morning person, it’s a part of our personality. Use your dating time to discuss this personality difference, you will save your marriage from a lot of emotional pain. Personality differences profoundly influence behaviour.

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Pheyi is a graduate of Accounting from Lagos state University; a fashionista; CEO, STYLESENSEAFRICA Fashion Academy; a motivational speaker and relationship/marriage blogger.
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